LIFE LESSON FOR TODAY, 2/21/14
1 JOHN 4:19-21
20 If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God
whom he has not seen?
21 And this commandment we have from Him: that
he who loves God must love his brother also
PSALM 127: 3-5
3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.
5 Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them;
They shall not be ashamed,
But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.
5 Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them;
They shall not be ashamed,
But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.
Matthew 10:28-31
29 Are not two sparrows sold for a copper coin? And not one of them falls to the ground apart from your Father’s will.
30 But the very hairs of your head are all numbered.
31 Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.
30 But the very hairs of your head are all numbered.
31 Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.
Matthew 11:28-30
28 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
HISTORICAL CONTEXT
29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
HISTORICAL CONTEXT
These are some of the scriptures that I find comforting when I am feeling overwhelmed.
I also meditate on them when I have missed
the mark or failed in an endeavor.
the mark or failed in an endeavor.
LIFE LESSON FOR TODAY:
"HELP YOUR CHILD STAY BULLY PROOF "
I didn't experience bullying when I went to
school. There was always a bad boy in class
but, he was just a loud mouth. No one picked
on a child to the point that he was in fear for
his life or wanted to commit suicide because he
was bullied. We had prayer in the schools at that
time. The children respected their parents and authority. Most children at my school were afraid
to take a bad note home from their teacher!!
I feel sad when I see pictures of the children who
are bullied. They usually walk with their shoulders hunched over and are looking down at the floor. I
may be wrong but they appear to have a poor self image. These kids are magnets for bullies.
I don't claim to have all of the answers on how
to combat bullying. I do know that a child who
loves himself doesn't let the words from a bully
devastate him or her.
Some things don't change regardless of when
you attended school. Children who are different
will be teased. Mean children are always looking
to see who is different. They may focus a person
who wears thick glasses or who wears out of style clothes and shoes, or who walks around looking frightened.The sad part is, that bullies are the ones with the low self esteem. They try to cover this up
by being a bully!! The bully may be popular and
have friends but it is all a sham. These so called friends are only around because they are afraid of
the bully and don't really like him or her at all. The home life of the bully may have a flaw somewhere. This child may have domestic violence in the home and may be experiencing physical or verbal abuse himself. This child may be feeling miserable (for whatever reason) and wants other children to be miserable too.
I worked with a mother who had a son in elementary school. I had met her son many times and he was the sweetest child I had ever met. He loved going to his Sunday school and was a tiny little fellow. He was smart and loved to help kids who were the underdog in the class. He would help them with their school work and with projects. A bully started calling him "gay" because he was helping the same little boy all
of the time. One day this mother had to leave work
in a hurry. She told me what happened when she came to work the next day. This bully had harassed her son too much. He had punched him in the jaw. He was suspended for a short period of time. The bully did not call her son names anymore and left him alone. I'm not endorsing violence but her son was desperate for relief. This is why some bullied kids do desperate things like school shootings.The parent(s)
and the school administration have to make bullys
accountable and let them know that the schools will not tolerate this behavior. The parent may have to be
the child's advocate if the school's teachers and the principal don't take the proper action.
The parent(s) may have to do more at home.
The parent(s) must be careful how they treat
their children at home. They must avoid nega-
tive statements that would lower their self image. Don't say anything to your child that you would
not want to be said to you. Think about how you would feel if your boss or friends said those same negatives statements to you. The child must feel
like God and the parent(s) love him or her at all
times. Bad behavior should not be condoned and
punishment must be consistent Verbal and physical
is not necessary. Children must know that they are loved whether they are fat, skinny,rich or poor, or disabled. They must feel that any shortcomings
they have don't prevent them from being love!!
I had two sons and they had two very different personalities. One was very shy and quiet and
the other one was out going and friendly. I had
to use different child rearing methods for each
child. The quiet one was more sensitive so I
never used harsh words when I reprimanded him.
He would do better when he had time out or when
he couldn't watch his favorite show. He loved math, science, and educational programs. The out going
one was always talking in class and the teacher was sending notes home. He was a good student but he was strong willed. I had to do a lot of praying about how to handle him. The Lord helped me out many time. This son being secluded and not being able to
see what was going on.
My husband and I were consistent with our child rearing. The house rules had to be followed and
both boys knew what punishment to expect when they disobeyed. Good behavior and good grades
were rewarded. They really enjoyed family night
out and family vacations. We avoided arguing in front of them and resolved issues in private. They had some friends who had divorced parents. They became upset if we argued and thought divorce was the next step. They had a friend who was loosing his hair because he had "bad nerves". His parents were rich but they fought day and night. The fighting was upsetting to the child and he was a nervous wreck.
My sons were taught to respect us and authority.
My sons are grown now. I am not declaring that we were perfect parents. We just got some things right. The boys thought we were too strict when they lived with us. They have told me and my husband they are glad that we were strict. They said that they would have been in trouble and thrown in jail if they had been allowed to hang out and had no curfew.
They want to raise their children like they were raised.
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